1 Timothy 5:5-8

5 She who is truly a widow, left all alone, has set her hope on God and continues in supplications and prayers night and day,

6 but she who is self-indulgent is dead even while she lives.

7 Command these things as well, so that they may be without reproach.

8 But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.

This particular passage impacted me years back in relation to the purchase of insurance. Yes I know – What are you talking about Carl.

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When my favorite and I were first married, we entered into a training that forced us to live by faith in the USA. As Canucks, we could not work, and had to focus solely on the gifts of the Lord through His people. So many ways He provided, and we were almost always on the edge, yet never without!

After the training, we entered civilian life – (is that the right term?) and began to minister in a very small foreign church, while I did language learning, and worked to put food on the table for my wee precious family. Those were difficult days, and yet the Lord was always there, taking care of us, talking to us, disciplining us – (too many times if I am honest with you) – but as before, we were living on the edge. Living by faith. Hand to mouth.

Until I read this little passage, and considered how I was not able to provide for my family if my wife became a widow. Yes, I think this passage is speaking in the context of widowhood, and to the men who may not be providing for their wives future.

I had two choices.

I could go gold mining and strike it rich, or set 20 bucks aside each month to give my wife an insurance policy – just in case! Please don’t understand that I am saying this is the only way to obey this passage, but I found it to be the solution before God in our case.

Thankfully, she hasn’t needed it as I am still kicking, but I am glad the passage brought me up short, for though she didn’t complain about the life we lived, I know this small act gave her some comfort.

Now, I realize this particular set of verses may not address the state of the one who does not provide for his relatives, (for I was a believer at the time) but in my understanding, it does speak of a believers actions as worse than an unbeliever.

Does this speak of a loss of life with the Lord, of an intentional act of the will to turn my back on the Lord and walk away for good? Good question! I can’t answer that, for the believer is always in a state of growth (at least he should be), may not have considered this situation for his family, or is concentrating on other areas of obedience. Each situation is for the Lord to judge.

But I think it does address the importance in the faith of the believer’s love for his family. If he doesn’t provide, it is equal to denying the faith, even becoming worse than an unbeliever! Such harsh words!

The question for my reader is. Does the believer appear to be an infidel (an unbeliever) – a terrible witness – or might the “believer” actually have become an infidel (denying the faith) in reality by abandoning the needs of the family, turning his back on those who need him?

It is a tough verse, and the definition of providing for “his relatives” may be difficult to nail down. I leave it with my reader to consider what Paul may actually be saying to his people.

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